His sick wife asked him to kill her. Now that she's gone, he says the loneliness is worse.
His sick wife asked him to kill her. Now that she's gone, he says the loneliness is worse.
USA Today; by Madeline Mitchell; 6/11/25
Ever since his wife died in December, David Cook feels like a stranger in his own home. ... The loneliness “is a problem,” Cook said, and sometimes he slips into dark, depressive episodes he can only shake with sleep. He avoids the living room, with the framed photos of the two of them smiling together, the new plush carpet, the television where they'd watch tennis and golf and the ghost of the recliner she used to sit in. Patricia Cook died there, so for now − maybe forever − it's off limits. ... When she went into hospice in their living room, adamant that she’d die in her own home, the pain was excruciating. “She actually, several times, asked me to kill her," Cook said. "And I didn’t even have to think about it, I just said, ‘I’m sorry.’ I said, 'I just can’t do that.’” “Do you know how hard that is?” Cook said. “When someone asks you to kill them?” ...
Editor's note: Spoiler alert. David Cook did not kill his wife. Still, he asks, "What more could I have done?" Read this story to develop your understanding of the profound depths of loss for spouses/partners, especially when they have served as caregiver through challenging needs.